I tried talking to him and he said I was being to needy. I dont want to settle or compromise my own feelings anymore..And you shouldnt either. But now that he has you he sees he doesnt have to try anymore. Its selfish to me but maybe it really isnt. He never comes to see me, I always have to go to him. Let YOU be your super woman! Like by shouting Im gonna get scared or intimated. Yet never once hes let me in. What he is doing and how he is treating you is disgusting. My brother did tell me that he may be going through some things in his personal life that he is not ready to share with me. He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. Hopefully, these reasons will let you know the answer if you are wondering why did he stop talking to me. He said he was planning on proposing that year. She told him to break up with me so he emailed me and said we needed to take a break until the situation gets better. But he tells me that he wants to get married even im being a total b*tch. He just argues about small and insignificant things such as a goodnight call or text. What should I do? Also, Ive been having a lot of cheating dreams but Im assuming its because he doesnt make me feel secure in the relationship because of the change. With his work schedule he doesnt make any effort. He definetly isnt prioritizing me. I literally had to make the dinner reservation for us. Always come lastAnd itsbreaking My heartthat I dont know what to do Financially Im not able to move And my son doesnt want to Any advice? Maybe he will brush his teeth at lunchtime but often he just smells like armpits and looks like a scruff and then wants to come to our clean bed that way. That will drive you crazy too. He also gave me his hat. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now.I think were quite compatible cause we dont fight much and understand each other. But Im not certain its not because he now wants to hurry to get the house finished and sell it while the market is hot. I have asked him to write more often if we do not physically meet so often, but I dont want to keep pushing him for more attention. You, me, and probably thousands of other girls are in the same boat right now with the Coronavirus. My boyfriend and I been together for a few months ,we dated not really long time ago and now we are in long distance. Now, I dont know all the details of this, but I would say that hes pushing you away unintentionally while trying to cope with the loss of his father. I didnt even realise I was expecting the bare minimum until it hit me while I was laying in bed after he hadnt messaged me all day because he was busy playing his game. I COME HOME AT 6 PM AND THE TRASH IS STILL THERE. I would appreciate any advice! It doesnt have to be a big, heavy relationship talk! But I cant help but hang onto hope, desperately wanting something inside him to change. I am still sad and confused as to what happened. I realized that despite all Ive shared with him about how his lack of effort makes me feel, he wasnt really listening or caring about it. He said he is trying to change. Ive been giving some hint and already talked about how I feel and why Im acting like this. However, I started to notice some changes in him, subtle ones. These are no games. So he does nothing. He almost kind of agrees to get it over with but nothing changes. I feel he could have a gf or just not be that interested. My 30th birthday was two days ago. And he is never sorry because he can justify it no matter how stupid. He expressed his anger in silence. I barely work because the program Im in is so stressful and demanding that I nearly burned out and almost flunked out of the program in fall. I still have ticket stubs from all the movies we saw and how much trouble weve gotten into together. I hate to say it maybe he did something he wasnt so suppose to and felt guilty leading him to end things. Im an emotional person but I always try to talk and let him know Im upset so that he knows not to act a certain way. I too feel like Im not asking too much- but even if Im clear in communicating what I want and need, my boyfriend rarely makes the effort. Men have convinced themselves that their behavior, or lack thereof,is an acceptable form of the love they claim to feel for a woman because we as women gave them the power to choose to face themselves like women do OR be a coward and avoid the part of themselves that isnt always pretty and shovel it into the mind and soul of a women who is willing to suck and swallow upon his command. He is so patronizing and cold and arrogant towards me like now he does not need me since he was opened up and exposed to all these new awesome, smart, relatable people. Because of the pandemic he doesnt have work and hes enjoying being with his family so hes not in any self chaos mode. to think I was already 32 years old still got fooled by a man. Help me please I have no idea what to do. I dont know how to bring this up without making him nervous about how he acts, as I dont want to make him uncomfortable about himself. You are worth it. He rarely responds to texts throughout the day and he never texts me first. Im not sure what to think or do. He stopped foreplay. When we are together he is so sweet and wonderful. It could be stress at work, ill-health, anxiety, or family issues. What do you do when your boyfriend hate you so much when he is drunk? I DO ALL THE LAUNDRY, VACCUMING , DISHES ,MOPPING, ALL THE CLEANING. I dont think he would see it this way at all. Hi, I have a very similar situation to yours. The day before yesterday he texted me saying hes been feeling unwell and didnt get much sleep. work game sleep. Please give me some advice pleaaaase. everything stopped. He spoiled her before they had kids then stopped completely as the kids needed his resources. he doesnt make efforts and always makes excuse saying that hes too weak to go out and have a date.whenever we see each other we only stay at his room. If we cant COMMUNICATE with our guys needs to be worked on by both parties. it makes me feel like hes okay with giving me the minimum because he knows i will accept it. He started texting her about how a great time they had and flirting with her. Ugh. Weve been together for 5 years. Im about to turn 20 in a few months and hes 25, Im afraid i might be a little too naive or wayyy too vulnerable for someone like him. Hes been going through a bit of a struggle with his mental health lately so Ive been trying really hard not to hold how hes been distant over him because I do understand it and I dont want to pry. We are now in quarantine and I have mostly been the one to come see him. I met this guy 6months ago we were happy and everything was going well, until last week Friday.He went out with his friends and he came back in the morning. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 8 years and have three kids together. They say age shouldnt matter, but it does play a part. Both Christmases weve been together hes given me money with the excuse that he doesnt have time to shop. I dont know if you have or not, but try just letting him spill his heart out to you about his feelings. I feel it has been one sided in many ways and all he has given me is monetary odds and ends to compensate for the lack of emotional effort on his part. BALANCE comes easier for women vs. men but does not mean we have to settle. Several, if not most of my friends live together with their partner and it is something I wish to do too. But for about two of those months, weve been in a long distance relationship due to him being relocated for work and weve only really seen each other about two or three times irl. Once in a while, I managed to do something to please him. I miss him and who he use to be,at the same time am preparing myself for the worst! I take it very personally and feel disrespected by this, alone, that he has such little respect for my comfort or opinion of him he just doesnt bother but he will shower and shave and brush his hair even to go get a haircut. it sounds like you two need to have a serious conversation about where you both stand. Just because he misses a few phone calls or texts doesn't mean he is ignoring you." This guy is really bad for you, and you know it. I make sure I put into the relationship as much as I get. But even after reminding him of that, nothing happen. He said he did. The first two years of the relationship he was wonderful. years later, i went to my facebook to unblock some people in my list, including him. Three weeks in he moved in with me and then the coronavirus pandemic hit and our romance took a nosedive. I asked him a couple of times why he doesnt put any effort and he just told me since we live together I shouldnt have to and I get that point but it doesnt mean just completely give up on putting a effort into the relationship. Oh, also he keeps poking my stomach and at first it was funny and cute but now its genuinely annoying and Im trying to tell him to stop but he doesnt take me seriously and just kind of turns it into a joke. Im just about done with him. I really wanted to talk to her siblings and parents and friends but he doesnt like the idea because he said his father and friends do not like me because I am not Lebanese. One of the issues I have had for almost 2 years is that he does not put effort to see me. For the past few months I noticed he stopped making effort. August came around I went back to school. He has said that he would maybe consider living together in five years. Im always the one asking him to do something, Im always planning my work schedules around his and swapping shifts etc I just feel like its so one sided sometimes. So currently on the couch drinking a beer, eating leftovers from a 3 days ago (which is humorous because he could have at LEAST heated that up for me) and then all the sudden the dog jumps up at me. Perhaps he thinks guys dont need to make an effort in relationships, and girlfriends should do all the work. When he is sad I quit everything to cheer him up. Hi! Everyone always says how Couples always fight, but that was never us. We do not even live together and he puts no effort, and I think throughout the years it would get worse if we get married, or live together. I got back with my ex after months. I am actually tearing up as I type those words, he actually said that to me. He broke up with me because I was becoming emotionally unavailable and I always cried when I was with him. You can go through the next 10 years like this cause this man is not miraculously going to change.do not for 1 minute think he is going to suddenly wake up and be who you want him to be. Then, all of the sudden the bottom drops out and he is unresponsive. But the communication thing has really slowed down. He Is Bored. I finally thought things were getting so much better for both of us. I completely understand that, but I dont hear him ever compliment me or anything that I do. 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